Listen to the Silence

Hey, quick joke – what’s the definition of politics?    Poly = many, Ticks = Bloodsucking creatures. Sorry.   Had to do it. Can we please keep the politics off of Fetlife?    (Unless it’s a discussion of golden showers.  Those are fine.)     That would be awesome.   Thanks. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I jump on FL to look through emails for my business.   I sign on here to see what other kinksters are doing, pushing the boundaries of sexuality.   And I get on here because sometimes the stuff you see in your feed is just too damned hot.    No, seriously.   SpanishRed’s writings get me all hot and bothered.   (Don’t act like they don’t do the same for you).  I don’t jump on here to read political rants by TERF’s.   Or by radical right wingers.   Or by leftist snowflakes.   I’m not getting into wher...

In the past few years of keeping a blog, and flickering certain posts on and off due to waves of doxing, and of flames and hate emails from angry snowflakes – I’ve learned a few things. I have learned that the truest believers, the devoutly faithful, of the snowflake church of Tolerance and Civil Liberties will often fall back on the same old world tactics of burning heretics at the stake. I have learned that the mildest, meekest, most “open minded” of us all has a vile stomach full of bile for those who won’t bow to their beliefs. I have learned that the mainstream media “truths” about this country are a blanket, under which lays people who still believe in common sense and decency.   In freedom, and in fairness. I have learned that there are those who simply will not be reasoned with.   They want to be in a constant state of victim-hood.   They simply will not live otherwise – and it’s a waste of energy to try. I have learned that t...

A few days ago I posted a few things on my twitter, and on my blog, and again on Facebook and Fetlife.   What did I post about?   Domestic Violence.   DV’s always a crowd pleaser (of sorts), right?   It generates dozens of reads, lots of caring, maybe even helping with donations to local charities…right? Only one little issue.   Teensy, tinsy, wheensy little issue. I posted about male victims of Domestic Violence.   About the men who get put into the hospital at every increasing rates.   I posted about the men who are more ashamed of admitting their crushed psyches (and sometimes bones) than they are of the scars themselves.   Men who have managed to accept their abuse as “just what happens to guys”. One recent study highlighted by the Mayo Clinic shows that a man is abused every 37.8 seconds.   In 2000, the National Violence Against Women survey determined that over 830,000 men reported being battered.  in a 2010 survey.   ...